Good for you for having work boundaries!

I keep running into the designated worrier issue with different people in my family. In one specific instance, the person was doing nearly all the extra work her coworker should have been doing, but was being penalized at her annual review for not helping her coworker enough. (My friend got a ten cent raise because of that indefensible conversation.) I suggested to her that if that coworker was really that useless, it was my friend’s duty to let the coworker fail hard. I told my friend to ONLY be helpful when her boss could visualize her work and the result. Next annual review came by, and her boss thanked her for being so helpful despite the fact that my friend was doing far less work. She even got a dollar raise.

Sometimes being helpful is just being codependent and enabling others to be dicks who take advantage of you. Especially when being helpful gets punished with more work. So not worth it.